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Rejection is Progress, Or At Least That is What I Am Telling Myself

August 31, 2017
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School started for my third grader Monday, the twins went for their first day of kindergarten on Tuesday.

Back to School - rejectionBut since they stagger-start the kindergartners for the first week, they were home with me Wednesday and will be home with me again today!

And, as any good mom in denial would do, I am pretending they are still in preschool.  We even had a playdate yesterday with preschool friends.

Preschool Friends - RejectionShould I talk to someone about that? 😉

Well, everyone will go to school tomorrow.  It is nice to be eased into the transition.  The addition of the long Labor Day weekend will ease it even more.  However, there is a teeny part of me (making mental tablets of lists of things to do) who is ready to start this new chapter and turn a few pages.

In the fall, doctors must see an uptick in appointments from the likes of me:  stay-at-home moms who meticulously schedule dentist, dermatology and gynecological appointments within the bookends of school drop-off and pick-up.  Next week I’m headed to the dermatologist, the week after – to the dentist and you all don’t need to know the other one. 😉

The framing of our house should be finished within the next week or so, which will bring more lists of things to do.  I have loved capturing images of the children exploring our new home as they begin to understand their new spaces with every 2×4 and 2×6 that gets nailed into place.  So far, we are super-pleased with the builder and the progress he is making!

A Room With a View - Rejection

Three Buddies - Rejection

Next week, I’m meeting with the folks over at Walker Woodworking to have an initial cabinet consult.  They were recommended by my friend, Kathy, of RES Interiorsand by another customer of our builder’s.  Kathy has impeccable taste, an eye for quality and design (of course), so I am feeling confident!  If you live in the Lake Norman area and are in need of an interior designer I would definitely give Kathy a call.  She is as lovely as her picture and as what she designs!

I will let you know how the cabinet meeting goes.  I am optimistic based on what I have seen on their website!

And, I suppose I will begin categorizing and loading all of those photographs I told you about earlier this week.  The photographer, Kathleen Martin, who has done an amazing job with my kids’ sports pictures recommended Chat Books.  I still need to check them out.

And, then there is that children’s book that I have written.  I sent off a query letter to a literary agent at Curtis Brown, Ltd. and received a ‘rejection’ email as I was writing this post.  Actually, the email popped up right when I finished the sentence in that last paragraph to be exact.

Sigh.

Honestly, I am not remotely devastated about the rejection.  Slightly disappointed – yes.  But, overall it causes an opposite effect in me.  It offers me time to regroup.  Plus, the rejection strengthens me, builds my energy and fuels my drive to succeed.  It embeds a deep desire to prove them wrong, as I visualize them smacking their head, wishing they had made a different choice, while they watch the show created from my book on PBS.

I really need to reign my imagination under control!

Perhaps my husband is ordering a psychiatric consult.  I suppose I do have time for another doctor appointment.  😉

In all seriousness, rejection or failure really offers ample opportunity for reflection and to revisit the project to see where there is opportunity for improvement.  And, as my dad (and many others) have said, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

I suppose that attitude might last until the tenth or eleventh rejection.  We shall see, or maybe not.

I also thought back to what I wrote about Walt Disney, Katherine Switzer, Thomas Edison, Lucile Ball and Dr. Seuss…. they were all failures at some point who ultimately found success.

So, for now, I will spin the 31-word email, written to reject my 9,698-word manuscript, into energy.

Now that you know way too much about me and the inner-workings of my mind, here are some interesting factoids about some famous authors.

Until next week, enjoy your journey!  XO Melissa


Interesting Author Facts

Harriet Beecher Stowe, author of Uncle Tom’s Cabin, lived next door to Mark Twain.  More specifically, Twain’s house is across the lawn from the Stowe House back door.

Stieg Larsson, author of The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, said the book was based on what Pippi Longstocking would be like as an adult.

Famous playwright Tennessee Williams choked to death on bottle cap (likely from a nasal spray or eye solution).

C.S. Lewis coined the word ‘verbicide’ to denote the killing of a word or the distortion of its original meaning.

Dr. Seuss included the word ‘contraceptive’ in a draft of his book, Hop on Pop, to make sure the publisher was paying attention.

Hans Christian Anderson carried a coil of rope with him when he traveled in case he needed to escape from a fire in a hotel where he was staying.

A publisher rejected the Mary Higgins Clark novel, Journey Back to Love, with the words, “We found the heroine as boring as her husband did.”

There is an annual Ernest Hemingway look-alike contest in Key West, Florida.

Michael Bond, author of Paddington, was inspired to create the bear in part by his memories of Jewish children who were evacuated to London during WWII.  The children all had a label around their neck and a little case or package that contained all of their possessions.  Paddington, in a sense, was a refugee like those children.

Washington Irving, author of Rip Van Winkle and The Legend of Sleepy Hollow suffered from insomnia.

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